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Winner of the 2012 International Book Awards Gold Medal and the 2012 Living Now Awards Silver Medal, The Soulmate Experience has been called “A relationship guide masterpiece” and “A catalyst for transformation in life, relationships, and self.” Its primary message is that everyone can experience deeply satisfying and fulfilling soul connections. Countless people are using the transformational ideas in this book to start new relationships that are profoundly connected on every level—emotional, intellectual, sexual, and spiritual—or to add more “soulmate experience” to the relationships they already have.
In Part 1, chapters like “Loving Your Body,” “Reducing Your Baggage,” and “Raising Your Soulmate Potential” will help you release anything that might be preventing you from experiencing a deeply connected relationship. In Part 2, chapters like “Turning Expectations into Invitations,” “Transforming the Energy of Jealousy,” and “Connecting on a Soul Level” will give you everything you need to approach even the most challenging aspects of relationships in ways that deepen your experience of love and intimacy. You will discover the secrets to keeping the love, passion, and connection in your relationship fully alive—every single day.
When two people have a close, intimate physical connection and complete trust in one another, they can help each other break through negative beliefs about their bodies and their sexuality, even if those beliefs are long-standing. This emotional healing process is deeply personal and profoundly freeing. It opens the couple up to experiencing even more love in their relationship, both through the healing experience itself and through the freedom it offers them to explore and enjoy their physical connection on an even deeper level.
Hilary and Josh were willing to share one such intimate healing experience in the hope that other couples might find it inspirational. Josh designed this experience to help Hilary finally release a belief she’d been holding: that her breasts were too small.
“Intellectually, Hilary knew it was a waste to spend any more time thinking that way,” Josh says. “But she just couldn’t let go of the idea that she was insufficient in the breast department.”
So one Saturday, Josh told Hilary they were going to devote the day to her breasts.
“She resisted at first,” he says. “But she knew this would be a positive, loving experience, and she eventually trusted herself to me.”
Josh began the morning by leading Hilary into the bathroom, where he turned on the shower. He asked her to step into it and focus on enjoying the feeling of the warm water on her skin. After a few minutes, he began to talk to her.
“I reminded her that she was beautiful to me exactly as she was. Then I had her close her eyes and put her hands on her breasts while the water ran over her. I asked her to imagine that she’d never felt her breasts before, and to notice how soft and sensuous they were.”
“The weird thing was,” Hilary recalls, “my breasts actually felt different, and even a little larger than I’d been imagining them.”
After this, Josh says, “I asked her to move her hands from her waist up and over her breasts and to notice how perfectly they complemented her body.”
Later, Josh talked with Hilary about the idea that when she compared her breasts with society’s ideal size, she would always feel inadequate. “I reminded her that while it’s true that millions of people are drawn to larger breasts, it’s just as true that millions find small breasts sexy and attractive. So if she was going to be concerned about what other people thought, she might as well focus on those who are attracted to smaller breasts.”
Once Hilary could begin to recognize that her breasts were beautiful in their own way, Josh had her pick out a variety of outfits, from casual to dressy, and model them. In each one, he asked her to look at herself in the mirror and find something attractive about her breasts. He also pointed out what his attention was drawn to, like the sexy curves that disappeared into the fabric.
“He was so lovingly insistent,” Hilary says. “At some point, I realized that my breasts really are, well, sweet.”
Josh took photographs of her in each outfit. “After that, of course, he had me pose naked!” Hilary laughs.
Being naked was more challenging for Hilary than wearing clothes. “But when I found myself judging the size of my breasts again, I’d hold them and close my eyes, and reconnect with that feeling of them being sweet. Once I did that, I was able to really be myself in front of the camera.”
Later, while Hilary relaxed in the bath, Josh created a slide show of the photographs they’d taken. When they watched it together, he had her imagine that she was seeing someone she didn’t know.
“It was amazing,” Hilary says. “When I looked at the pictures as though it was some other woman, I liked them so much more! I realized that my self-rejection was getting in the way of seeing how I actually look.”
That evening, Josh asked Hilary to dress in something that she felt made her breasts look particularly attractive. When they went out, he had her focus on staying in touch with her appreciation for her breasts and on enjoying how truly beautiful they were.
“When Josh made love to me that night,” Hilary says, “it was as though he was touching my breasts for the first time. Not only could I really enjoy them now, but I could let Josh enjoy them too.”
Josh adds, “There’s been a huge benefit for me too. When we’re making love and I touch her breasts, her whole body responds. She wants me to touch her. I can’t tell you the pleasure that brings me.”
Purchase The Soulmate Experience via Mali and Joe’s website, where links are available to all major retailers – in seven countries.
Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are relationship coaches, lovers, and best friends, as well as hosts of the wildly popular “Soulmate Experience” community on Facebook. They are currently at work on the second book in “The Soulmate Experience” series, The Soulmate Lover.
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